How To Change Your Attitude From Negative To Positive – 7 Tips

We’ve all heard about the power of our attitude and that it’s our attitude that determines how much we succeed in life. Statements such as “It’s not just our aptitude but our attitude that determines our success” are often sprouted and I think we’d all agree that people with a positive attitude just seem to enjoy life more and are generally happier and more successful. But how do we change our attitude? Here are 7 simple tips I’ve used often that you can implement to change your attitude very quickly.

Change Attitude Concept.

1. Be honest with yourself.
If you’re feeling bad or down and your attitude towards life or work is quite poor, then admit it to yourself. Don’t live in denial. Accept there is an issue because only once you’ve accepted something for the way it is can you make a change.

2. Get some rest
Have there been times when you’re overworked and stressed and you’re not getting as much rest as you should? How do you feel during those times? I bet you’re agitated and the smallest things can set you off. Often just getting some rest and forcing ourselves to take a break can be the best thing for our attitude. Adequate rest and sleep is a vital ingredient to maintaining a positive attitude.

3. Get clear on exactly what is causing you to have such a bad attitude
What exactly is bothering you? Is it your boss? Your partner? Your kids? There have been many times when I know I’m not quite feeling right but I can’t put a finger on exactly what’s bothering me and until I can figure it out, my attitude remains bad. However, once I figure out exactly what is bothering me (and that usually only takes a few minutes of quiet reflection), I can then do something about it and my attitude immediately changes.

4. Look at the Consequences of your Bad Attitude
For example, are you stressed at work because of impending deadlines? Is that causing you to snap at your kids and walk around the house with a bad attitude. If so, look at the consequences of that. Your poor kids and your partner have got nothing to do with how things are at work. So why should they cop the brunt of your poor attitude? If you continue with this, what’s going to happen? Things at home will only get worse and that will only make your attitude even worse. It’s a negative spiral which is very tough to get out of. So get clear on the consequences of your bad attitude. Who are you hurting as a result of being grumpy?

5. Do Something to change your attitude
What can you do to improve your attitude? For example, if you’ve had a bad day at work and you’re about to walk in the door and see the family with that same bad attitude, what can you do to change the way you feel? If I’m walking home, I will often take a longer route. The added exercise and fresh air often helps clear my head or I’ll start listening to some uplifting music which immediately improves my attitude. I might also go for a run or head to the gym. What can you do to change your attitude.

6. Change the way you are looking at the situation
We all have trigger situations that cause us to get into a bad mood and to have a bad attitude toward life. Remember it is not the event, experience or problem itself but rather the way we respond to it that makes us feel the way we do. For example, if you feel like you have too much to do at work, rather than complaining and wishing it will go away, take on your extra work as a challenge. Imagine how good it would feel to get through all this work and have your head about water again. Then, with your new positive attitude attack your workload with a new enthusiastic gusto. I guarantee that when you change the way you look at something, your attitude and your results will immediately change.

7. Have an attitude of gratitude.
When Sir John Templeton was interviewed and he was asked what the definition of wealth is, he replied, “Live with an attitude of gratitude”. Everyday, look for things to be grateful for. I don’t care how tough things get, there is always something to be grateful for, whether it is as simple as the fact that you have eyes to see things with, a roof over your head or a bed to sleep in. Look for 5 things to be grateful for everyday, seek to live with an attitude of gratitude and watch your entire attitude towards life change.

So there you have it – 7 tips you can use immediately to change your attitude. Remember, you have complete control over your attitude – you can choose the way you feel. So use these 7 steps to improve your attitude and you’ll be amazed at how much more relaxed and happier you feel.

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To your success,


  1. reeve says

    Thanks for this post. Now irealized what i’ve done because it is negative.
    thank you so much for the help.. :-D

  2. H M J Herath says

    I like to read you book sir, please can you send a book following address
    NO 31/1 Aluthgama, Pittuwalgoda, Yakkala, Sri lanka


    • says

      Thank you for your kind comments. I am in the process of doing a new print run and will advise once new copies are available for sale.

    • says

      Rita, well done on acknowledging your temper. Now it’s time to change it. Think about why you are getting angry. Are you trying to protect yourself from getting hurt?

  3. Rahel says

    Hey Niro,
    i get angry every time its like people make it their mission to make me mad,,,,,,,i have anger issues leading to bad attitude what can i do?

    • says

      Hi Rahel,

      Thank you for your question. What is it that makes you angry? Do you feel helpless to change a situation? A question you could ask yourself instead is, "What could be positive about this situation?" This will train you to focus on the positive. For instance, if you get cut off in traffic, you could angry at the driver or you could get grateful that you’re ok. Everything is a choice. I hope that helps!

  4. sanjay says

    i lost my relationship.i dont have a Job right now.i feel like everything conspiring against me and life is forcing me to do sit doing anything.plz advice how to change my attitude.

    • says

      Hi there, I understand how you feel. When I was broke, unemployed and over $100,000 in debt, I felt like everything was against me. It’s easy to get down on yourself but the question is do you want to? Or do you want to get back up and defeat the obstacles in front of you. I know it can feel overwhelming so start with something small. Start with the easiest thing on your plate and focus all your attention on that. For me it was trying to get a job so I set aside 2 hours a day to apply for jobs. After that, I then focused on my health and fitness and set aside time for that. By doing so, I was able to use the time I was down and out as preparation for an exciting future. You can do that same. Good luck!

  5. nancy says

    How can I change it if every time someone trys to talk to me I get mad N always up in my bissness what can I do?

    • says

      Nancy, it sounds like you’re a really busy person. Take some time out for yourself whenever you can to be silent and replenish yourself. That will help you keep calmer in such situations. I hope that helps.

  6. Sushma says

    Thanks a lot for the tips which are very helpful to change negative attitude. But what to do when people hurt you directly.

    • says

      Sushma, I’m glad the tips helped. Thank you for your question. The best thing to do is to find a way to forgive. Mahatma Ghandi said, "Forgiveness is a characteristic of the strong, not the weak." Good luck!

  7. Anitesh says

    This 7 step are really helpful… thanks for sharing it. My question is how control frustration,anxiety,over confidence & can get rid off low self esteem. Please help.

    • says

      Anitesh, start setting small goals for yourself and focus on achieving them. As you achieve small things, your self-esteem will grow and you can start achieving more!

  8. betty says

    thank you for the tips someone very close to me told me my attitude is going to reduce me to powder and that made me very woried


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