Do you sometimes get frustrated, despondent or disappointed that you’ve not yet achieved certain goals? If so, this is for you.
You see I’m guilty of being impatient. I want to achieve certain goals and I want to achieve them now (well actually I want to have achieved them yesterday!)… but then I have to remind myself… that’s dumb!
It’s like a pregnant lady wanting her baby to pop out healthy and happy after 9 weeks as opposed to 9 months.
Achieving your goals is a journey and a process. It takes time. The difference often is that you don’t know how long it will take. You’ve got to be patient. You’ve got to be persistent. You’ve got to continue to hustle while you wait. Despite knowing all this, even the most motivated of us can get frustrated! It happens to me all the time!
So when you do get down on yourself and your apparent lack of progress, here’s 4 things you can do to get yourself back in the game:
1) Look at your choices.
Do you give up? Giving up NEVER helped anybody achieve their goals faster. So decide that although circumstances may delay your progress, they will NEVER defeat you. It may take you longer to get to your destination but that just makes it a more exciting journey, a greater adventure! And if you do ever feel like giving up, look at the reasons why you wanted to achieve your goal in the first place and get clear on the consequences of giving up. They will force you to keep going, even when you don’t feel like it because giving up will be too painful!
2) Get inspired by what others have achieved.
I have to admit, I struggle with this one because when I see others who have already achieved more than I have, I sometimes get even more frustrated! But that’s when I remind myself, I don’t know their story, their struggles or their sacrifices. All I see is a snapshot in time.
So instead of comparing or complaining, celebrate the achievements of others. Consider that if it’s possible for them, it’s also possible for you. They’ve just had a different past to you.
And that’s the key thing to remember. Their past has been different to yours. However, you can now learn from their journey to accelerate your progress and create the future you want more quickly!
3) Look at why you’re getting so impatient and frustrated.
What does achieving your goal mean to you? Do you need to achieve certain goals and have the whole world know about it in order to feel successful and good about yourself?
This was a big one for me and I’m still working through it. I’m slowly realising that I don’t need to reach a certain level of success or be better than others in order to feel good about myself… and neither do you. The only person you need to be better than is the person you were yesterday! Focus on your own progress and run your own race. And remember, your competition is staring you in the face every time you look in the mirror!
4) Look back at what you’ve already achieved to date and the obstacles you’ve already overcome.
Celebrate them! Too often, we diminish our own achievements in favour of putting others on a pedestal. I’m guilty of it too so if you are, stop! Be proud of everything you’ve achieved to date, regardless of how simple that may seem. For instance, if the only thing you achieved today is that you got out of bed, well celebrate that.
I said good bye to a friend of mine once, promising to meet him the next day to hand him something. When I turned up the next afternoon, he wasn’t there. I got a phone call shortly afterwards. My friend had gone to sleep that night and never woken up. He’d died in his sleep! He was 21 years old and his parents’ only child!
So if you think your achievements are trivial, think again. There are people who would love to have what you have right now. So be grateful for what you have. Be proud of everything you have achieved and overcome to date… and then get excited about you will achieve in the future!
Oprah Winfrey said, “When I look into the future, it’s so bright, it burns my eyes.” That is true for you as well. You might not be achieving everything you want as fast as you want but so what. Slow progress is far better than no progress! You might not even know how to achieve some of your goals… well, when you review everything you’ve achieved in life, I bet you’ll see certain things you achieved that you had no idea how to achieve when you first started. So if you’ve done it before, what makes you think you can’t do it again?
So be proud of what you’ve achieved so far… and get excited by what you will achieve in the future. You’re just getting started!
So there are 4 ways for you to overcome frustration and impatience at not yet achieving a goal of yours. I really hope they serve you in some way. If they did, please leave me a comment below and tell me which was your favourite strategy.
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To your success,